There once were two girls who walked down a tree-laden path. One day, a couple bullies were hiding in some fruit trees, waiting for the girls to come near.
The mean kids threw the freshly-picked oranges at the girls’ heads. Sadly, their aim was true, causing the girls to fall backwards at the fruit-flavored impact. Bruised and battered with a few scrapes here and there, Girl #1 bent down to help up Girl #2. They then grabbed the fruity weapons, but alas the bullies had already come and gone.
Talk about a “hit and run.”
Girl #1 brushed off the fruit and began peeling it. “At least we got something positive out of the dastardly thing that happened to us.”
Girl #2 did not respond but the scowl on her face was evidence of her anger. She too brushed off her orange, but instead of eating the fruit, she partook of the peel. Bitterness filled her mouth…her whole being. All she could see was the peel, causing the sweet/positive fruit to become discarded.
Girl #1 was ready to move on due to not holding onto the bitterness; however, Girl #2 began to see the world in the most pessimistic way…just waiting for someone to throw something at her again. Because of her suspiciousness, she drove the possibility of more friendships away. She even turned against Girl #1, taking out her past frustrations on her…
Girl #2 couldn’t fathom how her friend could be so happy after being so hurt. One day she asked her, “Why do you continuously seem to be happy after each bully threatens to steal your joy away?”
Girl #1 smiled, and responded with, “Remember when you and I were hit with oranges?” seeing her friend nod she continued, “Well, if you recall, I ate of the fruit. It was sweet and reminded me that there will always be a positive found within a negative circumstance. Sometimes you have to look deep for it (like past the peel of the orange) and it will be there.”
Girl #2 wanted the happiness so much, that she gave up her eating of the bitter peel and dove deeper into what could fill her true hunger in life. She began to partake of the sweetness in life. It took some time, but the bitterness went away as she became full on the fruit’s happiness.
In conclusion, we all have the choice to be Girl #1 or Girl #2…which part of the fruit will you eat?
We can do Godly things for people, but we should not become “God” to them. There is one God and He is the only One who can truly supply every one of our needs.
Yes, there are needy people, but there are true people in need.
People in Need:
Rarely ask for help.
Are gracious for your help.
Don’t expect items, money, gifts, time, etc. from you.
Are usually wanting to reciprocate the kindness in some way.
I have noticed that these are the people that you feel drawn to. Like God has put something on your heart to help them.
Do not always appear like they are in need…but like I stated on the previous bullet, you feel drawn towards them. God usually tells you what they need.
Demand things from you.
Expect you to give money, clothes, anything that they see around your house.
Expect you to come to them at the “drop of a hat.”
Want you to take care of them when they are unwilling to take care of themselves.
Usually use “guilt” to get want they want.
I have noticed that this type of person will use you and abuse you.
By becoming God to the needy people, we are trying to supply their every need. Whether it is physically being there (helping with deeds around the house, etc.), supporting them financially, or even supporting them emotionally. We can be there for them, to some extent, but we cannot always be there. That is God’s place.
If we did try to take God’s place and supply their every need…what purpose would they need the one true God for? By being overly giving to the needy person, we could become a stumbling block to their walk with God.
o I don’t know about you, but I have found God in the darkest times of my life; when He was the only One that could supply my needs. If someone stepped in and took that place, would I have found God on such a substantial level?
Discerning when it is time to lend a hand or point them to the direction of God.
Sit down and pray about the situation (It’s time to use that “walking and talking relationship with God”).
Remember, God doesn’t condone guilt. It doesn’t come from Him(Paul).
Don’t let people guilt you into giving.
When you have that urge from God to give to a certain person at a certain time, do it. You will never know what giving to someone feels like until you do it with God’s guidance.
Have a good day, brothers and sisters, and may we never stop learning and listening in our walking/talking relationship with God.