Needy Vs. in Need

Needy Vs. in Need

We can do Godly things for people, but we should not become “God” to them.  There is one God and He is the only One who can truly supply every one of our needs.

 

Yes, there are needy people, but there are true people in need.

 

People in Need:

  • Rarely ask for help.
  • Are gracious for your help.
  • Don’t expect items, money, gifts, time, etc. from you.
  • Are usually wanting to reciprocate the kindness in some way.
  • I have noticed that these are the people that you feel drawn to. Like God has put something on your heart to help them.
  • Do not always appear like they are in need…but like I stated on the previous bullet, you feel drawn towards them. God usually tells you what they need.

Needy People:

  • Demand things from you.
  • Expect you to give money, clothes, anything that they see around your house.
  • Expect you to come to them at the “drop of a hat.”
  • Want you to take care of them when they are unwilling to take care of themselves.
  • Usually use “guilt” to get want they want.
  • I have noticed that this type of person will use you and abuse you.

 

By becoming God to the needy people, we are trying to supply their every need. Whether it is physically being there (helping with deeds around the house, etc.), supporting them financially, or even supporting them emotionally. We can be there for them, to some extent, but we cannot always be there. That is God’s place.

Example:

  • If we did try to take God’s place and supply their every need…what purpose would they need the one true God for? By being overly giving to the needy person, we could become a stumbling block to their walk with God.

o   I don’t know about you, but I have found God in the darkest times of my life; when He was the only One that could supply my needs. If someone stepped in and took that place, would I have found God on such a substantial level?

Discerning when it is time to lend a hand or point them to the direction of God.

  1. Sit down and pray about the situation (It’s time to use that “walking and talking relationship with God”).
  2. Remember, God doesn’t condone guilt. It doesn’t come from Him(Paul).
  3. Don’t let people guilt you into giving.
  4. When you have that urge from God to give to a certain person at a certain time, do it. You will never know what giving to someone feels like until you do it with God’s guidance.

 

Have a good day, brothers and sisters, and may we never stop learning and listening in our walking/talking relationship with God.

-Nikicks

Works Cited

Paul. Romans 8:1. n.d. <https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+8%3A1&version=NASB&gt;.

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The Domino Effect

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Look at the dominoes in this picture. Now imagine each domino is a person who has been hurt by another (the pieces, one-by-one, knocking into each other). We have a choice to either let the hurt be harvested and continue on by pushing our neighbor down…or we can rise above the hurt and chose to let the vicious cycle end with us.



It’s our choice (and what a difficult choice it is).



Bitter or Better?

Green Memories

Green Memories

 As I walked around the yard, I looked around and saw many “green memories.” Plants and trees that have been with my family through the years…trees that were planted as small saplings and grew into beautiful giants that towered over us, danced in the wind, and warned us of the changing seasons…and oh the flowers! The little buds that smell the sweetest in their first blooms…even the bees dance with glee of the fruitful pollen that awaited them. 
 In the winter, when everything dies back and turns into a desolate sort of beauty…I begin to wonder at the intricacy of the bare branches…and ponder why some branches are destined to break, while others stay firmly attached to the thick trunk. I asked God, “Why, do You spend time planning out every detail of each leaf and flower even though You know it will die and fall off in the end?”
God answered, “Because I enjoy its beauty while it is yet still living…no matter how short every leaf, branch, and flower’s time on earth is.”


Here are several “green memories” that I would like to share with you…




Oh, the good old silver maple. 🙂 I remember this tree being outside as long as my child memory can extend… Every spring I would sit near its trunk and watch the lady bugs come and lay their tiny yellow eggs all over it…they even squeezed out their eggs on my tire swing that was once upon one of the maple’s branches (I didn’t use my tire swing until the lady bugs hatched).




The trumpet flower, and oh boy, does it live up to its name! This flower can make a loud trumpet-like sound when you pinch its base together between your lips and blow (be careful to check for bees before sticking in your mouth!). 😉 This noisy orange bloom was once climbing on our gazebo, but now is hidden on our side yard, peeking out at us when we walk further outback. These flowers make me think of my dad and how he taught my sis and I how to annoy our neighbors with its sound.




This purple beauty is newer to our yard and grows like a weed! Its flowers do not last long but don’t worry, just as soon as the old ones drop off, there are new splashes of purple to take its place. I think of my grandma ‘Nita, since she gave us these plants (she has the greenest thumb I ever knew of).




The orange tree leaf. 🙂 These ancient trees surprisingly have given us some oranges every year. I think of my sis and how we would put the orange peel between our teeth and lips to make it look like we had orange teeth. 😉 I think every kid did this when they were young…hehe (I still do it).




The ivy…this green memory makes me think of our pug mix and how she would run through it when she was a puppy…Tula (yes, my sis named her pug after Tula from “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”), after going through the ivy like the chubby torpedo she is, would charge at my sis and I while we were sun bathing. Haha Good memories.




Mint…I will always think of my mother when I catch a whiff of this herb. 🙂 She loves mint anything…and there has always been mint right by our old silver maple.




This plant is special because it is called “Dusty Miller.” When my mom and I saw the name of this plant, we knew we had to get it. My brother’s name is Dusty; we bought this plant in memory of him.





And lastly…one of our Chinese pistachios that is already turning color! These trees that encase our pool, are always the first to tell us that there is hope for cooler weather, warm fall colors, and hot tea…

Hmmmm…I hope you enjoyed sharing your time with my green memories. 🙂 What plant/tree/shrub memories of your own are you thinking of now?
“Beam me up, Goddie”

“Beam me up, Goddie”

  Some days it feels like you want to say to God, “Beam me up Scottie,” or “Beam me up Goddie.” Okay…that was a bit cheesy.



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The burdens, the tribulations, the trials, the feeling like your trapped in your own body due to illness, and everything else that doesn’t just go as “plan A,” seems to weigh heavy upon your shoulders…and you are wanting the peace of heaven something fierce.
 Instead of God beginning an early rapture, He gave me a realization of what is truly happening behind the chaos and fleshly veil…
 
 When I continually give up the temptation of escaping reality by dreaming of my perfect world and close the door to the evil one who is trying to lead me astray with thoughts, I was hit on a different side…in a spot that I was very sore. 
 The evil one used those dear to me to bring up past insecurities and hurts that I had as a kid, causing me to draw inward. The wanting to escape reality and go to the perfect picture in my mind was tempting yet again…
No! I would not be snared into this situation again! Instead I’ll ask God to begin the rapture right now…
Hmmm…have I forgotten that I hold the sword of the Spirit in my hand? One battle was won but once the enemy licks his wounds, restores his strength, brings some of his “friends”…there will be a battle yet again. They tried to penetrate my mind yet again but when I refused to do so…they had a back-up plan. Their plan was to make reality so distasteful and unlivable by using those who have been strong and steady in my life, become weak and hurtful in a mind’s-eye. Don’t-get-me-wrong, it wasn’t just their actions that penetrated my armor but the preparation of my own thoughts towards them. 
Do you remember King Theoden from “Lord of the Rings, ” and how he was poisoned by Wormtongue…and how this whisperer-in-the-ear turned him against the people who only wanted to help him? 
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Many times Satan (or one of his minions) will get us worked up about a person by whispering thoughts in our ears. We will get worked up to a point that one little action from said person can make us overreact with our own hurt. Who knows, maybe Satan was beating down your friend/loved one pretty hard and the hurtful words you said to your friend puts him in a lower state. We are all fighting a battle…


Conversation between God and I:
Me: Jesus, is this another reason You went into the mountains? To get a “breather” from those who You called brothers and sisters but knew they were going to hurt You…betray You?
Answer: …and I forgave them.


Well, if that wasn’t a Bible-slap-to-the-face, I don’t know what is!


Here are the steps of forgiveness I went through:
1. Hurt.
2. Thinking back to similar situations where I’ve been wronged by said person (the evil one was a big help with this area!).
3. Realizing that I forgave their past wrongs to me and forbade my mind from holding the past FORGIVEN hurts against them.
4. Forgiving the present hurts and putting the burden of hurt before God.
5. Asking God to close the doors that were open for the attack, and applying the full armor of God on my body (speaking out loud and applying each article of armor to my being).
6. Asking God how I can pray about this situation and how I can pray for the friend/loved one and if I should bring up this situation to the friend/loved one (asking them for prayer).
I Sea

I Sea

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We’ve all had those days, weeks, months, or even years, where everything in life seems to be going against you…

The thing is, we are pushing against the tide to reach the unknown seas. We push and push to break through to the life we know is out there but the tide seems to be coming in with such a great force. Some would say to wait until the tide goes back out… I begin to question myself…Have I imagined that there is a better life out in the great blue? Why would I want to leave the sandy beach anyways? It’s comfy, not challenging, and I know that I can survive on it. Hmmm…”surviving” not “thriving.” I hunger for more than the sugary coconuts on the beach…I need the meat of the sea. I need more stability of the sand that blows away with the lightest breath of man…I need the rock that lies amongst the sea. The rock that stands the beating of the waves and becomes a sculpture of beauty from the waves persistence to bring it down.

So I will dive in the tide and make my way out to the unknown sea where there is a rock that will support me through any struggle…be it wind, rain, or hurricane, the rock will stand. Hmmm…but I must be careful, there is slippery, deceptive seaweed upon this solid rock. I must be aware of where I put my hand for a steady hold, for I may slip, fall, and become entangled with this seaweed of deception. This seaweed pulls you into the depths where there is sand yet again…but way below the raging waters. This is a more dangerous and tempting place to be…the Sands of Sleep and the Drunken Waters…where the senses are dulled and lulled to sleep. A few people will awaken from this stupor long enough to look for a hold on something to pull them up. This will be trying for them, but luckily there is a Lifeguard who walks on water.

Have we not all fallen down this slippery slope? Have we not all needed the Lifeguard to reach down His hand and pull us out of the Sands of Sleep and Drunken waters? I have tried climbing the Rock without the Lifeguard’s help and have fallen into the depths below…it wasn’t until I awoke from the stupor long enough for my hand to find the Lifeguard’s. He is now helping me climb the Rock. Do I sometimes lose my grip? Yes, it is because I wasn’t following my Lifeguard’s instruction. He is always guiding me, even if it is in His silence that I am to stay where I am and the storm rages about me. Just think, what if I wasn’t strong enough for the next grip up higher on the Rock when the storms came? I would be washed out. So, even though the storm thrashes at me, I know that God is just strengthening me for the next grip that is higher up.

I’m glad that we have a “Lifeguard” to help us climb and find sure footing on the “Rock” in the storms in life…

I Sea By: Nicole Kent

I must be careful of where I stand For the ground is nothing but fly-away sand I crave the Rock with all its might Brave the world and storms at night Where the winds whistle and the waves rumble Turning this glorious Rock into a masterpiece against the sea’s pummel As I slip on the deceptive seaweed and fall to the depths below Being lulled by the Drunken Waters I see a hand show I am gripped into reality as my Lifeguard pulls me above And am surrounded by His grace and overwhelming love He had warned me of the seaweed upon this mighty Rock But instead I tried to climb my own way and fell under tempting lock Now I know with Whom I stand… On this mighty Rock which couldn’t be reached without the Lifeguard’s hand