Listening to God about Someone’s Past Hurts

Listening to God about Someone’s Past Hurts

Okay, let us say that you know someone who continues to speak about their hurts of the past…let’s go through some different scenarios…

  1. They could have unforgiveness in their hearts (unfortunately, this is what most modern-day Christians first assume of a person)
  2. Their wounds run deep and need someone to listen and pray with them to help them process and heal.
  3. They are healed and God is having them use their story to help others.
  4. They could be in a new toxic relationship—which makes it easier to talk about past hurts rather than the current one their dealing with.

Now, would we approach each of these circumstances in the same way? No.

From my own experience and studying those around me, I have found that we are so quick to judge on what we think we perceive of a person instead of listening to God through the Holy Spirit. You see, God knows everyone’s backgrounds and hearts…and if we truly judged each other like #1 without listening to God, we may be discouraging someone in way that may make their burden tenfold.

For instance, if we condemn someone by saying that they have unforgiveness in their heart, when it is actually a #2 scenario—where their healing comes in layers and they just need a soft heart to listen and encourage and be there for them—it could really harm a victim in their process of healing.

If we condemn someone who is a #3, we could guilt them into not using their story to help others and be a stumbling block to those other poor souls’ healing. Also, I have found that hurt people heal when helping others overcome what they once went through.

If we condemn #4, they may end-up being like a clam, and close-up about their pain and never truly get help for their current situation that is a reflection of their past.

I cannot emphasize how important it is to speak to God about a person’s hurt, for we truly don’t know what they’re going through…but God does.

The Toddler and His Father

The Toddler and His Father

 A toddler walks barefoot with his father; holding onto his hands. The child sees a dark-new area ahead that catches his interest, so he asks his father to go explore it. The father replies with, “Dear one, if you want to go there, you must put your shoes on.” The toddler was stubborn and believed that he would not get hurt as long as his daddy was there, so he denied the shoes and continued to walk on still-tender feet. The father reluctantly consented after a few more tries of convincing his dear one, but knew his child would get hurt.
As the toddler walked upon the ruff terrain, he stepped on a thorn bush and began to bleed. He let go of his father and fell down to hold his wounded feet. Suddenly he realized that the darkness was around him like a thick blanket…”Daddy, where are you!?,” the child cried out…for he could not see his father because he let go of his steady hands in the darkness.
The Father was there; he was always there, and he had picked up the toddler and began kissing his tears away. The child finally reached up and embraced the One who was with him through it all. The father carried him for awhile (as he healed) and then told him to try walking again…but reminded him to put on his shoes, and he did so with his father’s help. The toddler grasped his father’s hands and together they continued their walk…

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What is the meaning behind this story? Well, there could be many interpretations of what is behind this short tale…but I will do my best at listening and typing to what God is saying to me. Haha Luckily, God is ever-patient with me. ;P If He can use the stuttering Moses to speak for Him, then I know He can make my clumsy fingers type something decent. 

 

Anyways…here we go.
 
I saw the darkness ahead and thought I could handle it because I had my Father (God) with me. Little did I know that “I was looking at the storm while standing on the seashore.” 
Sometimes, correction, MANY times I think I can handle what awaits for me ahead in life because I am holding onto my Father’s hands. Little-did-I-realize that God tells us what we need on our journeys (like applying the armor of God daily-Ephesians 6).
He is ready to give us the tools we need to walk among darkness and thorns, tools to climb the mountains ahead, and equipment to fight the battles that wait for us in the future…
Are you listening to His still but ever-present voice? I know I wasn’t. He was talking to a wall of stubbornness with me, and I got hurt by walking in the pride of my walk with God instead of humbly listening to His instruction before putting a step forward…I let go of His hands, felt alone, but he was there the whole time…wiping away my tears with loving kisses. I reached out for Him, He held me close.


My dad (earthly father) always reminds me to have a “walking and talking” relationship with God…not just walking or even talking but conversing (which involves listening).

 

What is God advising you to do this very moment as you continue to walk in your journey?