~ Toxic Christianity ~

~ Toxic Christianity ~

I have known many Christians who:

  • set the bar of “perfection” when they themselves have yet to reach it…
  • speak greatly of conflict resolution, yet their family is divided…
  • speak of being kind to one another, yet they yell and mentally abuse their family at home…
  • speak of love yet have physically abused their spouse behind the scenes…
  • use the verse “Children obey your parents” but belittle and bully their kids whilst ignoring the verse “Fathers don’t provoke your children to anger.”
  • are church leaders that speak of helping others but were absent when their own family had a crisis.

These toxic “Christians” put such heavy burdens on others whilst refraining from walking in that path themselves.

And they tie up heavy burdens and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are unwilling to move them with so much as their finger. And they do all their deeds to be noticed by other people; for they broaden their [c]phylacteries and lengthen the tassels of their garmentsAnd they love the place of honor at banquets, and the seats of honor in the synagogues…” Matthew 23:4-6

When it comes down to it—bring this heavy burden that the hypocrites have put on you and lay it before God’s feet. Allow the Holy Spirit to bring truth and revelation to you.

Let me add this—a toxic hypocritical Christian and those with narcissistic traits will tend to side with the accuser and abuser because they are one and the same. They will even use verses to back their belief (as stated below). You may ask, “Why would I accept a toxic Christian’s advice in my own life?” Well, you might at first, because they appear good on the outside (like previously mentioned). The revelation of their true character will arise eventually and/or if God reveals it to you.

“For nothing is hidden that will not become evident, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light.” Luke 8:17

Yes, the hypocrite’s words can be in tune with what the Bible states, but did not Satan use verses to tempt Jesus in the wilderness? Does not the enemy appear as an angel of light? What seems good and right may not be in accord with what God is telling you in this moment, in this season you’re in.

“There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every matter under heaven—

A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

I believe that the Bible is like a map, and one that we can reference to our lives, but we need the Holy Spirit as a compass to guide our ways in it.

“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, 17 that the man of God[b] may be complete, equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17

As an example, let’s talk about conflict resolution. There is a time for it, but there is also a time to kick out the scoffer, be absent from the reviler and run from someone who is bursting forth with temptation—it all depends on the season and predicament you’re in.

  • “Drive out the scoffer, and strife will leave, Even quarreling and dishonor will cease.” Prov. 22:10
  • “But [a]actually, I [b]wrote to you not to associate [c]with any so-called brother if he is a sexually immoral person, or a greedy person, or an idolater, or is verbally abusive, or habitually drunk, or a swindler—not even to eat with such a person.” 1 Corinthians 5:11
  • The verses that really stood out to me about temptation was Joseph and Potiphar’s wife…how he didn’t stay and attempt conflict resolution with her about her tempting him—he ran. “She caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me!” And he left his garment in her hand and fled, and went outside.”

In addition, we should always be kind to one another, love one another and those who are parents and married should love and respect their children and spouse as they expect their children and spouse do in return, and so-on.

End thought: Take everything that someone may tell you, with a grain of salt, for they don’t know the season you’re in, but God does. They may not be living-up to their own standard of Christianity and may just be projecting their own mistakes, horrid behavior, insecurities and flaws on you. Don’t allow that burden to be put on your shoulders, lay it at God’s feet.

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